Thursday, June 18, 2020

Let’s talk money

 

Hi Blogger!

You may have noticed that I haven't put out a new episode on the Limitless Life podcast in awhile — and that's because I wanted to give more voice to social justice conversations and Black creators during these past few weeks. I also want to let you know that this week won't be the last time you hear me talk about Black Lives Matter.

Next week, I'll be releasing an extensive plan on how our company will be embodying anti-racism in a bigger way and the actions we plan to take to keep this movement at the forefront of what we do and who we are.

And in the meantime, I'm bringing the podcast back TODAY with a brand new episode with my friend and Money Mindset Expert, Allyson Byrd! Allyson came to speak at my Mastermind retreat earlier this year, and I was blown away by her wisdom and energy, and I couldn't wait to get her as a guest on the podcast.

And before I tell you all about what she has to share, I want you to imagine something with me, Blogger.

Let's pretend you're eight, and you're walking through the park with your parent on a beautiful sunny day. It's warm, and you're so happy to be outside spending time together!

As you pass through the park, you see an ice cream stand. You immediately run to it and see they have your FAVORITE type of ice cream. You ask your parent if you can have some, and your parent asks the man at the stand how much it costs.

"Seven dollars for a cone," he says.

You're so excited — you can practically taste the ice cream already!

"Seven dollars? That's ridiculous," your parent scoffs. They pull you away. "We're not spending $7 on ice cream. We'll get some at the grocery. It's $2 there. That was way too expensive for ice cream."

Your excitement begins to fade. You don't really like the ice cream at the grocery store. But you stay quiet, because you don't want your parent to be upset. They seemed really stressed about that $7!

Later in the day, you remember that ice cream and how much you wanted it. But you quickly dismiss the memory, because now, you feel a little guilty. Your mind is telling you this isn't okay — that wanting something that's expensive is wrong.

And that thought consciously or unconsciously permeates through your mind over the next few weeks, months, and years. You probably have other experiences to back up that same thought.

And now, this thought starts to turn into a belief. And the belief might say:

"I cannot afford the things I want. It's not okay for me to want more."

And that, Blogger, is now a money belief that sits in your subconscious and impacts the way you see making and spending money.

Crazy, right?!

Now what if I told you that your money mindset doesn't just come from your parents — but comes from your great grandparents and beyond!


I know — that's exactly how I felt when Allyson broke that down for me on this week's episode of Limitless Life.

Allyson (a.k.a. the Profit Accelerator™) is a Money Mindset Expert who helped tens of thousands of business owners across the world — and her take on money is going to blow your MIND!

On today's episode, she shares why money is the left behind topic that so many people avoid working on when it comes to their mindset, why people say they "don't want to be rich" and the impact that has on our lives, and how we are conditioned to make decisions about what we want.  

Check out her interview here!

Our money mindset has such a massive impact on the way we live. It determines how we think and feel about how much money we can / should make, what we should do with our money, and even how we FEEL about money as a topic.

I can't wait to hear what you uncover today while you reflect on your money beliefs and see what's truly possible for you!

All Love,
Melyssa


P.S. If you've been tuning into the podcast regularly, then you know every few episodes, share a private coaching call, where I coach digital business owners of all levels on how their mindset is getting in the way of their success or joy.

Want to be one of the creators I coach on the podcast? You can apply here to get a free coaching session from yours truly!


 
 

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Monday, June 1, 2020

I messed up + I apologize (re: yesterday’s email)

 

Hey Blogger,

Yesterday I sent you an email with a subject that said, "How do I speak up about racism as a white person?" Within the email, I spoke directly to my white subscribers and shared links to resources for white people about how to begin doing anti-racism work. I've since received several email responses letting me know that by centering my email solely on white people and ignoring my BIPOC subscribers, I caused harm to the BIPOC folks who received that email and the social justice movement as a whole.

First, thank you to each person who chose to put in the labor of emailing me to call out my white bias. I know it's not your job to teach me, but your emails gave me a tremendous opportunity to learn, and for that I am truly grateful. Thank you. I'm responding to each of your emails individually, but I also wanted to send out an apology to my entire community, and take responsibility for the pain I caused.

I completely understand now how my email ignored the BIPOC folks who are in this community, which is not only deeply hurtful, but reinforces the destructive narrative that white people are "the norm" and people of color are forgotten and unseen. Not only do I want to create an inclusive space for BIPOC at all times, but to ignore the black people in my community at a moment in history like this is literally contributing to the problem. I am SO sorry.

I recognize that I have plenty of work to do when it comes to learning about social justice and being a trustworthy ally in action, and I deeply apologize for causing any harm or making you feel like you don't matter. I'm committed to doing better, excavating my internal blind spots and biases, and continuing to educate myself about social justice and systemic racism now and moving forward.

Thank you so much for being here. <3

With love and humility,
Melyssa

p.s. For anyone who wants to learn alongside me, these are some of the people I have been learning from recently and I recommend following them, taking their courses, and reading their books:

 
 

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